Research shows that individuals with a secure attachment style tend to have greater emotional well-being and more intimacy and trust in their relationships. But what about those who have struggled with attachment trauma and insecure attachment in their past? This is where earned secure attachment comes into play. By understanding the context that has shaped your attachment style, you can work towards developing a secure foundation for your relationships moving forward.

Love, connection, friendship, romance, pleasure, and joy are worth so much more than a single holiday…There is room for love in every relationship, every action, and every day. Read on for an individual and couple therapist’s suggestions for 5 ways to honor love and romance this Valentine’s Day and learn about how these methods will support you.

Relationship issues can be so triggering — it’s biology, we are wired for connection so the possibility of coming apart makes things feel real scary — and that makes it rife for analysis paralysis. Let’s take a minute to look at some myths and misconceptions I’ve heard as a therapist, and hopefully make the specter of relationship therapy a little less scary.

This post explores how a variety of cultural differences and power imbalances show up in interracial relationships and how couples can increase their awareness of these challenges and address them together to create more empathetic, authentic connection.

This post explores how a variety of cultural differences and power imbalances show up in interracial relationships and how couples can increase their awareness of these challenges and address them together to create more empathetic, authentic connection.

Feel better about the fact that you hate Valentine’s Day. Learn about how societal pressures, prejudice and Hollywood myths can make V-Day so toxic.

Kindman & Co. has now been up and running for 4 years! Amanda, our care coordinator, sat down with our co-founders, Kaitlin and Paul, to finally share the story of just how our practice got started and the importance of the social-justice, relational approach that we take. Click here to read more!

Are you as excited for the second season of Heartstopper? If you haven’t watched Heartstopper already, this is your cue to stop before the spoilers ahead and go watch! Heartstopper is a sweet drama about teen friendship and queer romance! Here are the top 4 things Amanda loved and reflected on for the first season, including queer representation, depiction of mental health, and general queer joy.

When everything is a disaster, it’s easy to figure out what you should talk about in therapy. Conflict, sadness, anxiety, relationship problems, friendship problems, parent stuff, body image, identity, etc. etc. Pleeeenty of content for a 50 minute session. It's those moments when things are actually going well, when just before your session you think: “What am I going to talk about today?” Click here for 5 topics to explore when it feels like things are going well and you’ve got nothing to talk about.

“Y tú novia(o)?” If you’re a Latinx young adult and single, chances are you get this question every holiday. It’s never fun. Unfortunately in our culture, like many others, there is this impression that something is wrong with you if you aren’t in a partnership. There could be many reasons why you don’t have a significant other sitting at the table with you. Read more for tips on how to start setting boundaries in the Hispanic community.

A lot of clients come into therapy knowing their attachment style, sure that they’ll never be able to maintain a secure attachment because of things that happened in their childhood that were out of their control. You are not stuck in one pattern or way of interacting with others and existing in relationships. Read more about your attachment style, how to build a new attachment style, and feel more secure in relationships.