Therapy for Men in Los Angeles & Online
Support in Highland Park for men and masc-identifying people navigating toxic masculinity, emotional pressure, and the need for deeper connection
Based in the heart of Highland Park and serving nearby neighborhoods across Northeast LA, our therapists specialize in supporting men, masc-presenting people, and anyone shaped by traditional expectations of masculinity.
At Kindman & Company, we recognize that struggles like loneliness, depression, shame, emotional numbness, and disconnection aren’t personal failings. They’re the natural result of a culture that encourages toughness, silence, self-containment, and performance over emotional honesty and relational support.
We view these symptoms as signals of how traditional masculinity harms men and the people they love, not as evidence that something is wrong with you. You are an emotional being, and you deserve space to feel, express, and exist without shame.
Whether you’re unpacking toxic masculinity, redefining relationship patterns, or moving between anger, shutdown, and the pressure to ‘hold it together,’ therapy offers a place to step out of survival mode. Together, we help you build a way of being that actually feels like you.
When being the strong one starts to cost too much
Many men grow up with an invisible rulebook:
Don’t feel too much.
Handle everything yourself.
Don’t mess up.
Be stoic. Be unshakeable.
These rules have shaped us, but they also isolate us.
Therapy offers a place to put the armor down without losing your edge. It gives you room to sort through stress, anger, shame, relationship patterns, and the pressure to seem like you’ve got it all figured out.
At Kindman & Company, we help men and masc-presenting folks build a version of masculinity that feels good to live in—one that supports your full, authentic emotional experience.
What Men & Masc-Presenting People Often Come to Therapy For
Toxic masculinity & harmful socialization
Emotional suppression, numbness, or shut-down
Anger that feels bigger than the moment
Pressure to perform, succeed, or “hold it together”
Relationship conflict and communication challenges
Identity and self-worth concerns
Loneliness, depression, and disconnection
Stress and burnout from unspoken expectations
Sexuality, intimacy, and attachment patterns
Childhood trauma & generational masculinity norms
how therapy Helps Men & Masc-Presenting People Heal and Grow
Therapy helps you understand yourself without pressure, performance, or judgment. We explore not just what is happening, but why, and how to build a life that feels grounded and connected.
Here’s what becomes possible:
Understanding the roots instead of blaming yourself
Men are often taught that expressing emotion equals weakness, leaving anger or withdrawal as the only “acceptable” responses. These aren’t flaws—they’re adaptations. In therapy, you learn where these patterns came from and how to shift them.
Expanding your emotional range
Stereotypical masculinity narrows emotional expression: stay calm, stay strong, stay in control. Over time, this constriction creates numbness, isolation, or sudden overwhelm. Therapy widens your emotional bandwidth so you can respond with more clarity and choice.
Building healthier, more honest relationships
When you’re trained to perform competence and self-reliance, letting people in can feel risky. Therapy helps you communicate needs without shame, receive care without defensiveness, and build closeness without losing yourself.
Breaking generational cycles
Many men inherit patterns of emotional avoidance or dominance. You get to be the one who interrupts them. Therapy supports you in creating relationships—and a life—that reflect your values rather than old scripts.
Creating a masculinity that actually feels like you
Instead of performing what you think a “real man” should be, you get to shape a masculinity that’s flexible, grounded, relational, and authentic. One where your emotions are strengths, your needs are valued, and your identity is built on who you are rather than who you think you should be.
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As you begin to notice these patterns in your own life, it’s important to have therapists who understand how masculinity is shaped—not just individually, but culturally. That’s where our approach comes in.
Our Approach at Kindman & Company
Our work is grounded in the belief that masculinity is not fixed or innate. Instead, it’s shaped by culture, family, generational patterns, trauma, race, sexuality, and the invisible rules you were taught about how to move through the world.
We don’t pathologize your coping strategies; we help you understand where they came from and what’s possible beyond them. You can learn more about our relational therapy approach here.
Here’s what you can expect when we work together:
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We show up as real people, not blank screens. Therapy is a place for connection, honesty, and curiosity, not shame or correction. You don’t have to perform or prove anything here. We meet you exactly where you are and move at a pace that feels right for you.
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We understand that “traditional masculinity” is not a personal failure, it’s a system.
The pressures men and masc-presenting people face around toughness, independence, self-sacrifice, and emotional silence are cultural, not individual defects. We work from the assumption that your symptoms are responses to these systems, and healing happens when you’re no longer carrying them alone.
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Many men experience emotions in their bodies long before they can name (or even identify) them.
Using relational and somatic approaches, we help you tune into sensations, patterns, and reactions that have been running on autopilot—so you can respond with intention, instead of falling into numbness, shutdown, or anger.
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Your earliest experiences with care, attention, conflict, and affection shape how you relate now.
We explore these patterns gently and collaboratively, so you can build relationships that feel safe, reciprocal, and connected.
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Ultimately, our approach helps you move from isolation to belonging, from emotional constriction to emotional fluency, and from survival mode to a grounded sense of self.
We walk with you as you build a life that feels intentional, relational, and fully yours.
If you’re ready to explore this work with support, we’re here to help you begin.
Begin Your Healing
If you're ready to move out of survival mode and into deeper connection, with yourself and others, we’re here.
What to Expect in Therapy
Starting therapy can feel uncomfortable, especially if you were raised to be self-reliant, composed, or emotionally reserved. Traditional and toxic masculinity often teach men that needing help is weak. So if you feel unsure or anxious about beginning therapy, you’re not doing it wrong—you’re responding exactly how you were taught.
Here’s what the therapy process actually looks and feels like:
A collaborative, no-pressure space
You’re not being evaluated or judged. Therapy is a conversation, a relationship, and a place where you get to be more honest than life usually allows. We go at your pace, not ours.
Room for uncertainty, discomfort, and slow starts
It’s normal not to know what to say, where to begin, or how you feel. Many men and masc-identified folks start therapy feeling disconnected, guarded, or unsure whether “talking about it” will help. That’s okay. We’ll take our time and find your rhythm together.
Support for naming and feeling emotions that were never permitted
Toxic masculinity constricts emotional expression, often leaving men with only a few “acceptable” feelings—usually anger or numbness. Therapy helps you learn your inner landscape without shame or pressure to “open up” quickly.
Practical tools paired with deeper understanding
We help you track patterns, notice triggers, understand emotional and relational cycles, and build skills that make life feel less overwhelming. This isn’t abstract theory—it’s concrete, lived change.
A relationship built on trust and curiosity
Healing happens when you feel safe enough to explore who you are in relationship—beneath performance, expectation, and inherited scripts. Therapy with Kindman & Co. offers a relationship where you’re encouraged to connect to previously cut off parts of you, embrace vulnerability and emotions as valuable information about your experience, and begin to practice leading with curiosity, empathy, and your true self.
A space where masculinity can soften, expand, and evolve
You’re not asked to abandon masculinity—just to shape a version that feels authentic, connected, and supportive of the life you want.
You don’t have to have everything figured out before you start.
You just have to take the first step.