Research shows that individuals with a secure attachment style tend to have greater emotional well-being and more intimacy and trust in their relationships. But what about those who have struggled with attachment trauma and insecure attachment in their past? This is where earned secure attachment comes into play. By understanding the context that has shaped your attachment style, you can work towards developing a secure foundation for your relationships moving forward.

Relationship issues can be so triggering — it’s biology, we are wired for connection so the possibility of coming apart makes things feel real scary — and that makes it rife for analysis paralysis. Let’s take a minute to look at some myths and misconceptions I’ve heard as a therapist, and hopefully make the specter of relationship therapy a little less scary.

This post explores how a variety of cultural differences and power imbalances show up in interracial relationships and how couples can increase their awareness of these challenges and address them together to create more empathetic, authentic connection.

This post explores how a variety of cultural differences and power imbalances show up in interracial relationships and how couples can increase their awareness of these challenges and address them together to create more empathetic, authentic connection.

Feel better about the fact that you hate Valentine’s Day. Learn about how societal pressures, prejudice and Hollywood myths can make V-Day so toxic.

Any relationship between human beings carries with it countless internal and external pressures that require awareness, insight, communication, negotiation, and communication. These are important in any relationship, and when you invite another person into your relationship, complications and possibilities multiply. I want to welcome you all to the expansive, confusing, and wonderful world of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and polyamory (or poly).

We get asked a lot here at Kindman & Co. if insurance benefits will cover relationship or couples therapy. The short answer is: probably not, and we’re not happy about it. From the perspective of insurance companies, problems in your relationship are not considered issues that impact your overall health to a degree that necessitates they pay for medical treatment. We disagree! Read more about our stance that couples therapy should be covered, too.

A lot of clients come into therapy knowing their attachment style, sure that they’ll never be able to maintain a secure attachment because of things that happened in their childhood that were out of their control. You are not stuck in one pattern or way of interacting with others and existing in relationships. Read more about your attachment style, how to build a new attachment style, and feel more secure in relationships.