paul kindman, lmft
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist #96984L.A. therapist specializing in couples therapy and modern masculinity
hello,
i am in awe of the resilience of human beings.
I help individuals & couples go from feeling defective, insecure and disconnected, to capable, confident and nourished by their relationships.
About paul (he/him)
co-founder of Kindman & Co.
I co-founded Kindman & Co. to help spread the message: there is nothing wrong with you.
I reject the idea that we as individuals are the sole cause of our distress. More often, distress is your system’s way of saying that something in your environment isn’t supporting you. It’s an alarm—a signal pointing toward the systems and contexts that may be failing your humanity. And humaning is hard!
We live, we stumble, we hurt, and we heal.
My purpose as a therapist is to help you make sense of what’s happening inside and around you, and to find the resilience and self-understanding we all need to navigate the messiness of being social and emotional creatures.
I’m especially interested in unpacking the stories we’ve been told about masculinity—stories that often pressure men to hide their emotions, compete instead of connect, or confuse strength with silence. These narratives hurt everyone. I love helping male-identified clients and couples to explore what it means to step into fuller, freer versions of masculinity that are relational, feminist, and grounded in authenticity and empathy. Together, we’ll challenge toxic patterns and traditional gender norms to create new ways of being that make space for vulnerability, accountability, and genuine connection. I believe men can be powerful allies in building a world that values care and equity, and I’m passionate about helping you develop the emotional fluency and relational courage to do just that.
As an immigrant myself, I am also deeply committed to supporting individuals and partners navigating the complexities of immigration, acculturation, and identity. These experiences often bring profound questions of belonging, loss, and adaptation: How do I belong? How do I hold onto my culture? Who am I becoming in this new environment? This work often means honoring loss while also celebrating resilience. I feel deeply privileged to walk alongside you as you navigate these complex transitions and discover what belonging can mean for you.
I also love supporting fellow therapists and helping professionals who are building their careers, trying to to make more room for themselves, and wanting to bring social awareness more deeply into their work.
Before co-founding Kindman & Co., I worked across a range of community agencies: providing harm-reduction-based substance use counseling, facilitating mentoring relationships for under-resourced youth, and working closely with marginalized and oppressed communities at The Relational Center, where I also supervised clinical trainees and associate therapists. These experiences have deepened my commitment to supporting BIPOC and queer/LGBTQ+ clients, who too often bear the weight of systems that were never built to hold or celebrate them.
My approach centers affirmation and curiosity—creating space for you to explore identity, heal from marginalization, and experience the freedom of being fully seen and accepted. Through this work, I learned firsthand the transformative power of community, curiosity, and collective care.
These opportunities shaped my passion for providing relational therapy from a social justice lens and reinforced my belief that therapy can be both healing and liberating. It’s not just about coping, it’s about reconnecting to who you really are and expanding what feels possible.
In our work together, we’ll unpack the cultural and gendered stories (often rooted in heteropatriarchy) that keep you feeling small, release shame so you can inhabit yourself more fully, and build the skills for empathy, vulnerability, and sustainable connection.
Let’s help you to cultivate lasting relationships where you get to be your most authentic & grounded self.
Couples Therapy in Highland Park, los angeles
Just as my individual work is rooted in helping people connect more deeply with themselves and others, my work with couples and partners centers on building relationships that are grounded in empathy, trust, and mutual growth.
As a PACT Level Two Therapist, I love working with couples to deepen intimacy and strengthen their sense of connection. I often work with partners in multicultural relationships, who are navigating the unique challenges (and strengths) of honoring multiple belief systems, identities, and traditions within their relationship and families.
As an immigrant myself, I know the complexities of moving from a collectivist culture into a society that often prioritizes individuality over community—and how these differences can shape the ways we love, communicate, and build partnership.
Together, we’ll help you express your needs clearly, make agreements that truly support your partnership and families, and nurture the deep, secure connection that helps relationships thrive.
In our work, we’ll walk alongside one another with curiosity and care. With warmth, empathy, and humor, we’ll create the safety needed for authenticity and growth. We’ll invite vulnerability to inspire movement and build trust and understanding.
And yes, we’ll celebrate the joys and share laughs together, because humor offers great perspective, lightness, and access your most resilient, human self.
career highlights & key trainings
Master of Clinical Psychology, Antioch University
Levels 1 & 2: Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy Institute (over 80 hours of live training)
Long-time member of the Board of Directors at The Relational Center
Three-Year Training Intensive and Residency practicum in Relational Gestalt Therapy with a social justice orientation for healing trauma, The Relational Center
Advanced Training in Community Gestalt Therapy, The Relational Center
i am…
I am an immigrant, refugee, and acculturated American. I am a child of divorce, raised by a single mother. I am an alloparent. I am a feminist and activist. I am a former ESL kid. I am a proud sensitive, vulnerable man. I am a partner in a multi-cultural relationship. In my off hours, I’m a snapper of photos, a fan of all things Dodgers, Lakers, & Kings, a baker of crusty breads, and a devoted cat and dog parent.
california licensed marriage & family therapist #96984
Finding your match with Paul
The easiest way to get started is to book a 20-minute complimentary match call. On this call, a member of our care team will listen to what’s bringing you in and share how our relational approach works to make sure we’re the right fit for you.
Our goal is to help you find the person on our team who is best suited to support you. We’ll make sure that Paul (or perhaps a different therapist) is the right partner for the work you're looking to do.
A quick note for our community: To stay within our licensing guidelines, we are only able to work with clients who are physically located in California at the time of their sessions.
We respect your privacy and will not share your information with anyone. Read more about our privacy policies.
Kindman & Co. is located in Highland Park, Los Angeles. All therapists are LGBTQIA2S+ affirming & anti-racist.
We are open 6 days a week for morning, daytime, & evening appointments. You can call/text us at 213.793.2990
Kindman & Co. is not an appropriate service provider for emergencies. In case of a mental health emergency, please call 1-800-854-7771 or go to the nearest Emergency Room. If you or a loved one is needing urgent support, check out our mental health resources. We do not see walk-ins or provide emergency services on site.
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