blog: Thoughts on Being Human
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On Season 2 of Heartstopper, Queerness, & Mental Health
Are you as excited for the second season of Heartstopper? If you haven’t watched Heartstopper already, this is your cue to stop before the spoilers ahead and go watch! Heartstopper is a sweet drama about teen friendship and queer romance! Here are the top 4 things Amanda loved and reflected on for the first season, including queer representation, depiction of mental health, and general queer joy.
On What to Talk about in Therapy When You’re Doing Okay
When everything is a disaster, it’s easy to figure out what you should talk about in therapy. Conflict, sadness, anxiety, relationship problems, friendship problems, parent stuff, body image, identity, etc. etc. Pleeeenty of content for a 50 minute session. It's those moments when things are actually going well, when just before your session you think: “What am I going to talk about today?” Click here for 5 topics to explore when it feels like things are going well and you’ve got nothing to talk about.
On How to Survive Your Tía Asking Why You’re Still Single
“Y tú novia(o)?” If you’re a Latinx young adult and single, chances are you get this question every holiday. It’s never fun. Unfortunately in our culture, like many others, there is this impression that something is wrong with you if you aren’t in a partnership. There could be many reasons why you don’t have a significant other sitting at the table with you. Read more for tips on how to start setting boundaries in the Hispanic community.
On Attachment Styles & Building Earned Secure Attachment
A lot of clients come into therapy knowing their attachment style, sure that they’ll never be able to maintain a secure attachment because of things that happened in their childhood that were out of their control. You are not stuck in one pattern or way of interacting with others and existing in relationships. Read more about your attachment style, how to build a new attachment style, and feel more secure in relationships.
On Multi-Cultural Partnerships & Why Discussing Cultural Difference is So Important
We’re often told that love does not see color. And despite the well-meaning hope of optimism this phrase aims to perseverate into our society, failing to recognize the ethnic differences in yourself and your partner can ultimately be harmful to the relationship
On the Pandemic Relationship Pressure Cooker & How it Can Save Your Relationship
Is anyone else feeling like their partnership is all over the place right now? As a couple therapist I can comfortably proclaim: partners are not meant to spend all of their time together. There is also opportunity during this time to learn more about what hasn't been working and where to start to make changes. Read on for more!
On Building a Thriving Partnership: Moving from Codependence towards Interdependence
Being in an intimate relationship is one of the most challenging and rewarding of all of the experiences of being a human. Love relationships are the subject of countless novels, songs and movies. Yet, we are all taught to be worried about being codependent or losing our independence within a partnership. Interdependence is essential for healthy, successful relationships, here's where to start!
On Relational Therapy & How it Helps You Heal
At its core, relational therapy recognizes that the primary tool for change and/or growth is the relationship between client and therapist. This focus on relationships comes from the psychology of connection and co-regulation. Read on to learn how relational therapy helps heal, build empowerment, and improvement your relationships.
On Why We Need Connection & How To Be Connected During the Pandemic
When we have intimacy with other human beings, rushes of neurochemicals are delivered to these systems in our brain and immediately our hearts are filled with warmth and fulfillment. Being connected to others creates a feeling that (literally) soothes every layer of our being.