Relationship issues can be so triggering — it’s biology, we are wired for connection so the possibility of coming apart makes things feel real scary — and that makes it rife for analysis paralysis. Let’s take a minute to look at some myths and misconceptions I’ve heard as a therapist, and hopefully make the specter of relationship therapy a little less scary.

Any relationship between human beings carries with it countless internal and external pressures that require awareness, insight, communication, negotiation, and communication. These are important in any relationship, and when you invite another person into your relationship, complications and possibilities multiply. I want to welcome you all to the expansive, confusing, and wonderful world of consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and polyamory (or poly).