how to be a relational therapist training

level one: build your relational foundation

A 12 CEU clinical training for therapists to start to feel more confident being relational with clients & build a more sustainable practice

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Enrollment for our fall 2026 cohort is now open!

Build Your Relational Foundation & Practice Getting Messy in the Therapy Room

Relational therapy isn’t about hiding behind neutrality or technique—it’s about bringing your humanity into the room in ways that foster trust, repair, and lasting change. How to Be a Relational Therapist: Level One helps you lay the groundwork for showing up authentically with clients, using vulnerability and stance as healing tools rather than liabilities.

In Level One, you’ll gain a solid foundation in relational practice while also learning how to sustain yourself as a therapist. This training gives you concrete interventions to use in session, confidence to let your authentic self lead (and your freak flag fly!), and support in navigating the messy, real moments that inevitably arise in therapy. You’ll also explore how relational therapy can be a buffer against burnout—helping you feel more alive and connected in your work instead of depleted by it.

By the end, you’ll walk away with practical tools you can use immediately, a deeper understanding of yourself as a relational clinician, and a supportive community that affirms this powerful truth: the therapist’s humanity is not a problem to manage—it’s a powerful part of the healing process.

You can reserve your spot by submitting the form below or scroll down for more detailed info.

If you’re not quite ready to register, you can send any questions you have to [email protected]

I highly recommend this training to anyone who is interested in practicing more relationally! I learned more than any other training I’ve attended. My clients absolutely love it!
— past HTBART attendee

the deets

Dates & Time

This workshop meets once a month on Sundays in September, October, and December of 2026, and in January of 2027.

  • Part One: Relational Therapy 101 (The Basics of Relational Therapy)

    • Sept. 27th, 2026 10:00am -1:30pm

    • Oct. 18th, 2026 10:00am -1:30pm

  • Part Two: Taking a Stance in the Therapy Room

    • Dec. 6th, 2026 10:00am -1:30pm

  • Part Three: Therapist as Human First

    • Jan. 24th, 2027 10:00am -1:30pm

Scroll down for more detailed information about the topics that will be covered in each part & for pricing and payment plans.

daily schedule

10:00am -11:30am – Introductions, Educational Material, & Demo

11:30am -12:00pm – Break & Tea

12:00pm -1:15pm – Dyad Practice/Breakout Groups; Q&A

1:15pm -1:30pm – Closing Exercise & Check Out

I am grateful to have found a training aligned with my values...Much of my previous education taught me to place myself in the room as a professional who had to use my ‘self’ as rarely as possible. Because of this work, I’ve already started to attend to my relationships with clients in a more sustainable and authentic way.
— Heidi M.
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Commitment

Our cohort model reflects the heart of relational work—it’s not just about learning theory, but about building connection and community that sustains you long after the training ends.

Our hope is that all registrants will plan to attend all four training days. This is important because each day’s material builds upon the previous training modules.

Since the focus of How to Be a Relational Therapist is on relational work, which is largely experiential, building relationships with your fellow training participants is a significant support to furthering your learning. We encourage you to keep in touch with other participants and deepen your relational community!

Enrollment for the 2026 cohort is now open!

Meet your training team

All members of our training team are part of our leadership team and actively practicing clinicians using the Relational Therapy modality. They bring extensive experience modeling self-awareness, curiosity, and professional ethics, and have served as clinical supervisors for associate clinicians and clinical interns.

Our training team holds diverse lived experiences and identities and is deeply trained in anti-racist and anti-oppressive clinical practice. As leaders within our organization, they don’t just teach these values, they actively shape and uphold them. They support clinicians in developing professional identity and building stronger, more relational therapeutic connections with clients, leading to more meaningful and effective clinical outcomes.

You can read more about the members of our training team:

Anna Kim, LCSW · Dani Marrufo, LMFT · Kaitlin Kindman, LCSW · Paul Kindman,LMFT

level one: build your relational foundation

Part One: Relational Therapy 101

Part One offers a clear, grounded introduction to relational therapy—what it is, how it works, and how to know when you’re actually practicing relationally in the therapy room.

This section is intentionally spread across two meetings to allow time for questions, case integration, and real-time practice so learning can unfold relationally rather than feel rushed or overly technical.

Key themes we’ll explore:

  • What relational therapy is (and isn’t) — core principles and foundations of relational work

  • Relational interventions — basic ways relational therapy shows up in the therapy room

  • Relational goals — what relational therapy aims to support and how change happens

  • How it differs from other therapy modalities — understanding what’s familiar, what’s new, and what shifts

  • Effectiveness and outcomes — how relational therapy improves therapeutic outcomes and how we think about measuring effective therapy

  • Knowing you’re doing it — recognizing relational moments and assessing your own practice

  • Therapist vulnerability — why clinician vulnerability is essential to relational work and secure therapeutic relationships

  • Limits of non-relational approaches — where other modalities fall short when a relational lens is missing

  • Neurobiology of attachment — how safety and attunement in the therapeutic relationship shape the nervous system and why relational work helps build secure attachment and lasting relational change

  • Practice in action — a live demo of working in the here-and-now and basic relational practice

Part One takes place across the first two meetings on Sept. 27th & Oct. 18th, 2026 | 10:00am -1:30pm

part two: Taking a Stance in the Therapy Room

This module explores what it means to practice relationally in a world shaped by power, privilege, and sociocultural narratives—and why therapist “neutrality” is often neither neutral nor harmless.

Key themes we’ll explore:

  • Rethinking neutrality — how attempts at being “neutral” can unintentionally cause harm

  • Challenging professionalism narratives — questioning sociocultural expectations of who/what therapists are supposed to be

  • Moving beyond the “blank slate” — deconstructing therapist neutrality and its impact on the therapeutic relationship

  • Modeling humanity and messiness — thoughtfully bringing your full self into the room, including consideration of physical touch

  • Allowing yourself to be moved — exploring how being impacted by clients can deepen relational work

  • Power and privilege in the therapeutic relationship — understanding why ongoing reflection here is essential, not optional

  • Practice in action — a live demo modeling how to take a stance in the therapy room and therapeutic relationship

Part Two is on Dec. 6th, 2026 | 10:00am -1:30pm

part three: the therapist as human first

This module is about being a therapist and a person—how to stay human, relational, and grounded while doing deeply meaningful clinical work.

Key themes we’ll explore:

  • Showing up as a whole person in the therapy room — how to stay relational, present, and human while holding your clinical role

  • Authenticity and transparency — valuing your own humanity and knowing when (and how) to bring it into the work

  • Practicing vulnerability — using relational vulnerability ethically and intentionally

  • Burnout awareness — how relational therapy helps you recognize when you’re getting “crispy” and what to do about it

  • Navigating personal life events — support around when personal life shows up in the therapy room and how to talk about it with clients

  • Boundaries and dependence — understanding how over-reliance on your care can work against therapeutic goals

  • Real-life practice — breakout groups focused on common relational challenges and building confidence in the moment

Part Three is on Jan. 24th, 2027 | 10:00am -1:30pm

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Kindman & Co. (Provider #1032875) is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and LEPs. Kindman & Co. maintains the responsibility for the program and all its content.

Ways to Join Us - Invest in your Relational Practice

Choose Your Relational Therapy Adventure: Start Messy, Get Braver, or Do Both!

With multiple levels, flexible fees, payment plans, and CEU offerings, you have plenty of options for diving into a lively, supportive space where growth—and a little messiness—is celebrated.

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level one

Build Your Relational Foundation — Learn the theory & practice getting messy in the room.

4 Modules • 12 CE Hours


Therapy isn’t tidy, and neither is learning it!

In this interactive cohort, we’ll lay down relational foundations while experimenting, stumbling, & laughing our way through the real mess of the work. You’ll find support for your own humanness, connection with peers who “get it,” and practical tools you can bring straight into session.

Enrollment for the Fall 2026 cohort is now open.

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level two

Beyond the Basics — Start to get braver, messier, & be more skilled in the therapy room.

4 Modules • 12 CE Hours


Once you’ve dipped into the mess, it’s time to lean in deeper.

In Level Two, you’ll take on the tougher stuff: complex cases, sticky dynamics, and those “oh f*@k, what do I do now?” therapy moments. Together we’ll practice getting braver and more skillful while still honoring the humanity (and humor) that makes relational therapy so alive.

Enrollment for level two requires having attended level one. If you’re interested in both levels you may want to consider signing up for our bundle option!

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bundle: one + two

Start messy, grow braver, & get more skilled — The whole relational therapy journey.

8 Modules • 24 CE Hours


Why stop halfway? The Bundle takes you from solid foundations to deeper dives, giving you the full shebang of messy, brave, relational learning. Across seven modules we’ll build skills, wrestle with the hard stuff, laugh at our humanness, and grow in a committed community. It’s the most supportive (& cost-effective) way to enjoy everything the training offers.

Includes all eight modules (24 CEU hours total!) Save up to $150 when compared to registering separately.