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We get asked a lot here at Kindman & Co. if insurance benefits will cover relationship or couples therapy. The short answer is: probably not, and we’re not happy about it. From the perspective of insurance companies, problems in your relationship are not considered issues that impact your overall health to a degree that necessitates they pay for medical treatment. We disagree! Read more about our stance that couples therapy should be covered, too.

Death is disastrous. It doesn’t make sense and it’s certainly not tidy. The meaning we make of it, however arbitrary, is the meaning of it. Anna shares her story in navigating loss, becoming a therapist, and finding wholeness after loss.

It’s been one year since we began living every moment in a global pandemic and have faced so much loss. We’re supposed to “just get over it,” and when we don’t, we feel disordered or wrong. Whether the loss of a person, a job, a friend, a plan, an identity, hope, time. We all lost our pre-pandemic existences. Read on for more tips on coping with grief anniversaries.

But what if this January, for our New Year’s resolutions, we were able to approach an old concept with new complexity? What if we were able to hold both the past and the future, the good with the bad, the things we want as well as the systems that influence how we want them?

Are you allowed to ask your therapist questions? If so, what kind? During individual therapy sessions, my clients will often apprehensively (or apologetically) ask if they can ask me a question. It might be too personal, they say, or: I’m not sure if this is okay, but… What follows is more often than not a very genuine, understandable, normal, human question! Therapy provides an experience of what a healthy relationship can be.

Anna Kim, one of our fabulous therapists, and founder Kaitlin Kindman, sat down to have a conversation about grief. We discuss how grief is portrayed in media and culture and how this makes you feel like you’re doing it wrong. The key to healing is in connecting with others who get it.

A lot of what I hear in grief work is something along the lines of: I feel like I’m not grieving right. It’s an idea that’s reflective of a lot of things about modern life and comparison culture, but I think there’s something unique in its application to loss.

That large, messy thing is grief. It’s a complex matrix of emotions. Sometimes, we feel as though we have followed the dead to another, hollow plane of existence, and sometimes we feel shockingly, electrifyingly alive.

what makes something a guilty pleasure is an underlying assumption that it is embarrassing, frivolous, bad, or that we somehow don’t deserve it. There is guilt in liking it even though one “shouldn’t,” and guilt in fearing judgment. But who decides what is and isn’t pleasurable? What makes someone’s pleasure a guilty one?